Prepositions after adjectives

Ashamed of, for, about, at or before?

Ashamed is most commonly followed by of. Other prepositions can appear in specific contexts, but they do not all work in the same way.

Quick answer

Which preposition goes with ashamed?

Use ashamed of to say what causes shame. Ashamed for can mean feeling shame on behalf of someone else. Ashamed about is sometimes used, especially before situations or actions, but of is more standard. At and before are uncommon directly after ashamed.

ashamed of his behaviour
ashamed for their team
ashamed about what happened

Choose the pattern by meaning

These forms are not interchangeable. Choose the construction by meaning, not by which preposition appears most often.

1
ashamed of + thing/person/action

Naming the cause of shame

Of is the standard preposition after ashamed.

She felt ashamed of her mistake.
He is ashamed of lying.
2
ashamed for + someone

Feeling embarrassment on another person's behalf

For is used when you feel shame because of another person's actions.

I felt ashamed for him during the speech.
3
ashamed about + situation

Referring to a situation or topic

About is possible, especially in conversational English, but of is usually more direct and standard.

She was ashamed about the incident.
4
ashamed before + audience

Showing shame in front of others

Before can introduce the people in front of whom someone feels shame. It is not the adjective's main complement.

He stood ashamed before the crowd.

See the difference in context

The same subject can take different constructions because each sentence answers a different question.

Construction
Example
Meaning
ashamed of
They were ashamed of their decision.
Standard pattern for the source or object of shame.
ashamed for
I was ashamed for my friend.
Feeling embarrassed on behalf of someone else.
ashamed about
She felt ashamed about the argument.
Possible, especially for situations, though of is more common.
ashamed at
She was ashamed at her reaction.
At is uncommon but possible in some formal or literary contexts.
ashamed before
He felt ashamed before his family.
Before introduces the audience witnessing the shame.

Common mistakes

Some combinations appear in real text but do not mean what learners often assume.

Using for instead of of

Use ashamed of for your own actions or qualities.

✕ ashamed for my behaviour ✓ ashamed of my behaviour

Using at as the normal pattern

At is much less common than of after ashamed.

✕ ashamed at his lies ✓ ashamed of his lies

Confusing before with the main complement

Before shows the audience, not the reason for shame.

✕ ashamed before the mistake ✓ ashamed of the mistake

Quick practice

Choose the expression that matches the intended meaning.

1. She is ashamed ___ her comments.
2. I felt ashamed ___ him during the interview.
3. He stood ashamed ___ the entire class.

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Frequently asked questions

Is ashamed of the most common pattern?

Yes. Ashamed of is the standard and most widely used construction.

Can I say ashamed about?

Yes. It is used in conversational English, especially for situations, although ashamed of is usually preferred.

What does ashamed for mean?

It means you feel embarrassment or shame because of another person's behaviour.

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