English is not a language that traditionally deals well with gender, in\nthat the language’s pronouns can be a little clumsy. Take this quote by Thomas\nHuxley as an example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Suppose the life and fortune of every one of us would depend on his winning or losing a game of chess.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Unfortunately, the traditional means of\ndealing with gender unknown was to apply the masculine pronoun, in this case his<\/em>.\nEnglish, of course, is far from alone in this practice. For example, in\nSpanish, if referring to a group of friends containing both genders, you would\nuse amigos<\/em>, clearly favoring the masculine form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Fortunately, despite what many grammar\npedants would have us believe, English has always been a language that adapts\nwith the times, and now we have available the useful, gender-neutral, singular they<\/em>,\nor in the case of Huxley’s quote, their<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Suppose the life and fortune of every one of us would depend on their winning or losing a game of chess.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Some will argue the case that formality has\nbeen forsaken with this usage, and although they may have a point, once again\nthe pronoun they<\/em> is a modern replacement for the rather outdated one<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Suppose the life and fortune of every one of us would depend on one winning or losing a game of chess.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Anyone who has watched the popular Netflix\nseries The Crown<\/em> will be familiar with the British aristocracy’s\npreference for this formal pronoun, but it does not sound suitable in normal\neveryday speech. Hence again the usefulness of they\/their\/them\/themself<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This opinion is supported by many long-established\nand respected language institutions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They, their, them, themselves: English lacks a common-gender third person singular pronoun that can be used to refer to indefinite pronouns (as everyone, anyone, someone).<\/em><\/p><\/p>Merriam Webster Usage Note<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Despite the apparent grammatical disagreement between a singular antecedent like someone and the plural pronoun them, the construction is so widespread both in print and in speech that it often passes unnoticed.<\/em><\/p>American Heritage Dictionary<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n \n\n\n\n
Personal gender pronouns<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Happily, we also find ourselves living in an enlightened\nage where people may no longer identify with the long-prescribed\ngender-specific pronouns.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, according to a 2015 study by GLSEN,\nmore than two thirds of the LGBTQ community have frequently or often heard\nhomophobic comments at school. Language is important, and so applying the correct\npersonal gender pronoun (PGP) needs to be considered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
GLSEN offers the following definition of PGPs:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The pronoun or set of pronouns that a person would like to be called by when their proper name is not being used.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Of course, the gender-neutral they<\/em>\nbecomes incredibly useful in this situation. However, it may not always be the correct\nsolution, so in all cases the best approach would be to ask early on what PGP\nthat particular individual would prefer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Themself<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
The word themself<\/em> can cause any manner\nof controversy, with many people, websites and language apps not even recognizing\nit as a bona fide word. Indeed, in writing this article, the word themself<\/em>\nwas not recognized by the installed spellcheck function. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Themself<\/em> would be the reflexive\npronoun of the singular they<\/em>, and could be used as follows:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If a person wishes to be considered independent, then they must learn to do a number of things themself.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
The last word on this particular issue should\nbe given to the Oxford Dictionary Blog:<\/p><\/p>\n\n\n\n
To sum up, the wheel has not yet come full circle and themself remains a standard English outcast. . . for now. You can be sure that Oxford’s lexicographers are keeping their eye on the situation: given the strong evidence for the word in all types of writing, it may well merit reconsideration within the next 20 years or so.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Conclusion<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
If you find yourself in the situation where you are writing a formal essay and this issue presents itself, then it is perhaps best to approach with caution. Understanding the preferences of you tutor would help, as it seems there are still those among us who do not favor the usage of they\/them\/their<\/em> in formal situations, or indeed themself<\/em> in any.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
Practical tips for using singular they<\/h2>\n
Use singular they when the person’s gender is unknown, when you refer to someone who prefers gender-neutral pronouns, or when you want to avoid awkward constructions such as “he or she.” It reads naturally in speech and is widely understood in contemporary writing.<\/p>\n
Keep verb agreement consistent: treat singular they like a plural for verbs (they are, they have). That is the standard and sounds most natural to readers.<\/p>\n
\n
- Be consistent within a piece: pick a pronoun form and stick with it.<\/li>\n
- If someone shares specific pronouns, use those instead of assuming they\/them.<\/li>\n
- In formal contexts where a style guide prohibits singular they, rephrase (use plural antecedents or repeat nouns) or check with your instructor\/editor.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
When in doubt, ask politely and respect individual preferences-language is a tool for clear, respectful communication.<\/p>\n\n
FAQ<\/h2>\n
Is singular they grammatically correct?<\/h3>\n
Yes. Many contemporary style authorities and common usage accept singular they as a clear and inclusive solution when gender is unknown or nonbinary. It has a long history in English and is widely used in both speech and writing.<\/p>\n
Should I write themself or themselves?<\/h3>\n
Both forms appear in usage. The traditional reflexive is themselves, which is widely accepted even with singular they. Themself is increasingly used by people who prefer a singular reflexive, but if you need to be conservative, use themselves or restructure the sentence.<\/p>\n
How do I ask someone about their pronouns politely?<\/h3>\n
Use a short, respectful approach: introduce your own pronouns first (“Hi, I’m Alex – I use they\/them”) and then invite them to share theirs, or simply ask, “Which pronouns do you use?” If the setting is public or sensitive, offer to ask privately.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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